Monday, May 22, 2023

My Sister My Inspiration

Written by Lipika Singh Chouhan, Certificate Course in Leadership 2023 

My sister is an inspiration to me. She has helped me to lead an effective life. Being a guiding light in my life has taught me a few valuable life lessons. Her wisdom, kindness, creativity, and imagination have inspired me to become a better person and achieve my goals. She shares her life lessons with me. My sister has taught me to learn from her mistakes. She has been through many ups and downs in her life and has learned from her mistakes and she tries that I don’t make those mistakes She has always encouraged me to take good decisions based on my values, morals, and beliefs. She has shown me the importance of making choices that align with my goals and aspirations as well as my ethics.

My sister is a kind and compassionate person. She always helps others whenever she can and encourages me to do the same without any expectations. Her creative and imaginative mind has inspired me to pursue my own creative interests and develop a love for literature. She is always encouraging me to live a life on my own terms.

Moreover, my sister is an exceptional mediator between me and our family. She keeps our family in check and is always there to listen and offer advice. She has taught me the importance of communication and how to effectively resolve conflict without hurting other people. She is a source of comfort and support for me whenever I need it the most.

Most importantly, my sister has inspired me to dream big and go beyond my own limits. She has taught me that anything and everything is possible if I work hard and believe in myself. She has always encouraged me to pursue my passions and to not up on my dreams. She has made my life more effective and helped me to become a 2.0 version of myself.

My sister has also taught me an important lesson about the importance of personal goals. She tells me that professional issues are temporary but personal goals are permanent. This has been an important reminder to me to focus on my personal goals and not just on my career or professional ones. It has helped me to maintain balance in my life and to prioritize the things that matter most to me.

My sister is an amazing person who has had a significant impact on my life. Her leadership, kindness, creativity, and wisdom have inspired me to become a better person in my life. She has taught me valuable lessons that have helped me to navigate through life with grace and confidence. I seriously don’t know how would I exist without her. She is an amazing woman, and I aspire to be like her. If I ever conquer the world, it would be because she would be backing me up.

Transformative Teacher

Written By Yashi Khera for Certificate Course in Leadership 2023

Teachers play a pivotal role in shaping the minds and characters of students. Beyond imparting knowledge, they have the power to inspire, motivate, and instill leadership qualities in their pupils. Effective leaders are not just born; they are nurtured and influenced by exceptional teachers who serve as beacons of inspiration. This essay explores the profound impact teachers can have on developing leadership skills, highlighting their ability to foster confidence, empathy, and a sense of purpose in students. My inspiration and idol is surprisingly not a celebrity but my high school teacher, Pooja Ma’am.

What truly makes Pooja Maam exceptional is her adaptability and responsiveness to our individual needs as students. She understands that each one of us is unique, with our own learning styles, strengths, and weaknesses. Instead of following a rigid one-size-fits-all approach, she embraces flexibility in her teaching.

She takes the time to get to know us as individuals, learning about our interests and abilities, and tailoring her lessons accordingly. This personalized approach ensures that we are appropriately challenged and given the opportunity to thrive academically. It is inspiring to see how she goes above and beyond to ensure that each student receives the support they need to succeed.

Pooja Maams dedication extends far beyond her lesson planning. She consistently demonstrates unwavering commitment and support to her students. From guiding us to giving us the ability to pave our own paths and take our own decisions, it is evident that she genuinely cares about our academic progress and overall well-being. Her passion for teaching shines through her interactions with us, as she consistently goes the extra mile to provide additional resources, guidance, and support. She creates a nurturing and inclusive classroom environment, where we feel valued, encouraged, and motivated to do our best. Her dedication serves as a powerful motivator for us to put in our own effort and strive for excellence. One of the most remarkable aspects of Pooja Maams teaching is her infectious enthusiasm. Her positive energy radiates throughout the classroom, creating an atmosphere of excitement and engagement. Even the most challenging topics become accessible and interesting under her guidance. Pooja Maam's enthusiasm for her subject, Business Studies, is contagious, igniting a love for learning within her students.

She encourages us to ask questions, think critically, and explore beyond the confines of our textbooks. Her enthusiasm inspires us to embrace curiosity and pursue knowledge with passion. She also serves as a role model of perseverance and resilience. She remains calm and composed in the face of setbacks and challenges, guiding us through difficult times and teaching us the importance of resilience. Witnessing her unwavering determination to overcome obstacles motivates us to develop a similar mindset. She taught me that with hard work, dedication, and a positive attitude, I can overcome any hurdle and achieve my goals.

Therefore, I dedicate this essay on my leadership journey to Pooja Maam. It is she who has played a transformative role in shaping my growth as a leader and as an individual. She has left an indelible mark on my life. Her unwavering support has empowered me to believe in my potential and strive for excellence. I am forever grateful for her guidance and inspiration, and I carry the lessons she has taught me into my future endeavors. She will always remain my idol and a beacon of inspiration in my leadership journey.

Monday, February 13, 2023

Life is Precious

Written by Amala Johnson, Creative Empowerment Batch 3

 "A father's love is the light that guides you through life's darkest moment”.

Johnson, my father at 63 years who has been married for 26 years and has two grown children, me and my brother Arun. He lost his mother at a young age, but instead of dwelling on the loss, he learned to focus on the present and the future. He has always been a positive person and has a happy outlook on life. When I asked about his childhood, Appa talks about how the loss of his mother had a profound impact on his life but he never let it bring him down. He learned to appreciate life and to make the most of it.



As Appa looks back on his life, he cites his marriage and the birth of his children as the most important events. He has always tried to be the best husband and father he could be, and he is proud of the family he has built. He has always believed that family is the most important thing in life and has made sure to spend quality time with his loved ones. 

He also values hard work, honesty, and loyalty, and has always tried to live by those principles. He always cared for others and he always trust others easily. I am shocked to see that he still has good connections with his B.Com friends and he always cherishes all the memories.

When asked about a significant challenge he faced, Appa reflects on the difficult time he went through when his business faced a setback. Instead of getting tensed about it, he looked at it as an opportunity to learn and grow. He worked hard and was able to bounce back and make his business successful again. He is not stressed with any of the incidents. He always feels that everything is happening for a good reason which I admire a lot and he also learned that even in the darkest of times, there is always hope. Being happy in life is not very easy and my superhero is always happy. Through this experience, Appa learned that failure is just a part of life and it's important to have a positive attitude and never give up.

Appa's advice to someone just starting out in life is to always stay positive, to never be afraid of failure because failures make us successful and to focus on the present and the future. He also stresses the importance of being true to oneself and never giving up on one's dreams. He always encourages me and my brother to follow our passion and dreams. He hopes to be remembered as a loving husband, father, and as an amazing friend. He also hopes to be remembered as a hardworking and honest person who always tried to do the right thing and who lived a happy and fulfilling life.

The most valuable lesson Appa has learned over the course of his life is that life is precious and should be appreciated. He has learned to not take anything for granted and to always be happy and positive. He also learned that family is everything and that no matter what happens, you should always cherish the time you have with your loved ones. He believes that being happy and having a positive outlook on life is truly the most important thing.  It's amazing to see the dedication and love that he puts into being a great father and husband while still pursuing his career and personal goals. So I learned to cherish each and every moment and thus I am following it.

“A good father is a balancing act of being strict enough to teach right from wrong and chill enough to enjoy life's adventures.”


Inspirational Essays : Creative Empowerment Batch 3

Aai by Shivani Jadhav

Ex Seminarian by Mariya K Joseph

Life Flow by Kalyani Abhyanakar

My Wonder Woman by Jessia Saji

Rebel and Achieve by Pancinovia Neelu P

My Smile My Life by Harshita Jain

Simple act of caring is heroic by Ayana Shaji

Nishkama Karma by Kruthik P S

Life is Precious by Amala Johnson

My Smile- My life

Written by Harshita Jain, Creative Empowerment Batch 3

“No matter where you are, just don’t break trust of your family.”

 “Make them proud not let them down.”



Mahendra Jain Poddar

The reason I am writing about my father is that he is my role model. I want to be like him. His childhood was amazing full of funny, adventures & lovely stories. In short, I can describe as –

छोटे से गाँव मे एक बड़ा सा परिवार है

7 भाई बहनो का उसमे प्यार है

मेरे पापा उनमे सबसे जिद्दी, सबसे हाँहर है

वसूलों के पक्के, समय के punctual

एक इंसान मे छुपे 100 किरदार है

और हर किरदार मै वो बेमिसाल है!”!!

I asked about my father to my grandfather, his sisters, his buddies, I get to know he used to be the funniest guy in his gang. he loved to do comedy. He was the champion of kushti group. May be that's the reason people still scare to say wrong  Infront of my father. I feel luckiest daughter in the world to have him as a father in my life. I feel proud when people say " ye DADA ki beti hai". In my area people say "DADA" to my father with love & honour. Even he is not that much educated but he is open minded. He never says no to me for anything. He believes on my dreams more than me. My father is a great business man. We are 4 siblings but we never felt lacking of any type. How beautifully he does all these things.

­­­Some memories of him: Once upon a time when he was a student of class 8th, his friend copied his paper & got higher marks than him. He slapped his classmate & said "never talk to me again, I don't talk to cheaters. He is very honest in his life. In his class 10th he fought with a teacher & after it he never went school. His family was very upset by this incident . They worried about his future. But he proved all wrong as he succeeds in his business more than anyone in his family. he is a hard worker & has a very good communication skill. In a very young age, he started to earn & became a great business man. I learnt the value of time from him. he gave us leadership qualities. He is the leader of my family. I always see himself like a boss " when he speaks all become silent ".

“सपने सच होते है या नही ये मुझे नही पता पर सपने देखना मुझे मेरे पापा ने सिखाया है। खुली आँखो से सपने देखना और उन्हे पुरा करने की पूरी कोशिश करना। पापा हमारे खुशियो की चाबी है। “

I love him so much. I can do anything if he is with me.

He says – “Believe in yourself”. He believes – “Apun hi Bhagavan chhe.”. 

Harshita Jain

 

Simple act of caring is heroic

Written by Ayana Shaji, Creative Empowerment Batch 3 

Born in July 1967 in Kaarachal, a village in Wayanad was a boy full of mischief and ambition. I cannot think of another person who cares for us as much as he does. I cannot imagine another person cooler than him.  Shaji Ouseph was the youngest among 6 children born to Annamma and Ouseph. Though being the youngest of all, he wasn't pampered…he paved his own path. From those exciting stories that I heard, I could understand that his childhood was a mixture of both, great joy and misery. His sisters vividly remember how short-tempered, stubborn and loving at the same time he was. People's opinions and judgements never affected him negatively. He is very optimistic about most of the things in life and even if he is feeling out of sorts, he never showcased it.

My father started his career as a teacher in 1994 and later on became a firefighter. He is a great storyteller. When it comes to the evening walk, that was the story time…he would go on elaborating the precious funny stories of his childhood. And yes…he had the most elegant way of delivering them. The story which intrigued me the most was the one he said about his schooling. He never bothered to study until 10th grade, when the appreciation of a single teacher changes the entire course of his life.  My dad used to walk miles to reach school every day barefoot. It was during his 8th grade he bought a pair of black fancy shoes with the money that he earned by going to part-time bookbinding work. The struggles were there always, as he had to figure out his own path with little or almost no guidance and support from others. He had a great passion for knowledge which made him go back to pre-degree (12th ) once again to pursue Math after completing his polytechnic diploma. My dad is a jack of all trades and he has tried various activities in his life. He made sure that he made the best use of all the opportunities he got. He was into theatre…which explains why he is such a good storyteller, he tried out martial arts, chess, and swimming and in his late 40s, he enthusiastically joined football, volleyball and badminton matches. Unlike my mother, my father is not someone who spends a lot of time praying. His religious perspective is slightly different as he says it's not important to go go to church to pray and so on, to which I don't agree. Raising three children is not an easy task. He never forced his children to do what they didn't want to, instead, he guided them beautifully to make their own decisions. He encouraged us to express ourselves and our opinions and always reminded us to be ourselves and celebrate our uniqueness. As my younger sister is growing, I can see a clear reflection of our father in her. She is confident, creative, organized, extremely caring and also short-tempered like my dad. My father moved to Dubai when I was in 1st grade. The struggles he has been through were never shared with us. It was easier to quit, but he continued to squeeze out every drop of that opportunity. I always admired his hardworking nature, and the dedication he puts into everything he does, be it small or big he believed that one must give the best one can in all one do. 

My dad never gave utmost importance to money. He always says that real wealth is health and happiness. Be it a friend, family member, colleague, superior officer, a stranger…he always said to others what he believes is right and never sway away from it.

 I once asked him to share a motto to which he cling on to, and his response was:

“ Live a life with no regrets and not hurting any soul”.

Aai

Written by Shivani Jadhav, Creative Empowerment Batch 3

 “हॅलो शिवानी! माझा प्लीझ एक काम करशील? यांचा बरोबर मी धनादेश पाठवले आहे, ते बँकेत जमा  करशील?” (Hello Shivani! Can you do me a favour? I have sent a cheque with Sir, can you please deposit it in the bank?) Confused, I called Vinaya to ask what exactly am I supposed to do. dhanadesh is cheque in pure Marathi clarified Vinaya after mocking me for not knowing! Aai’s commendable fluency in Marathi can be credited to her working at Dnyan Prabodhini in the Santrika department. It is the conversation I remember I had with Aai back in around 2015-16 when I started interning at Vinaya’s father’s law office in Pune. What began as a friendship over shared study notes quickly turned into a special bond. I would frequently visit their home to enjoy lovely meals prepared by Aai and Vinaya.


Aai came to Pune after her marriage from Kopargaon in Maharashtra. She started working at Dnyan Prabodhini shortly after Vinaya was born. Vinaya’s aunt wanted to apply for a position but couldn’t draft an application so Aai wrote it for her. While applying she thought of giving it a try herself and got selected! Even though she started working coincidentally, in retrospect she attributes her personality development and self confidence to this educational institution. Not only did the job give her financial independence but also developed her understanding of the society and a positive perspective to life. This she says is the reason why she has been working there for 27 years. She says previously she struggled to talk but over the years she developed the confidence to hold a conversation with people from all walks of life. When I asked her about what is the one thing or choice in her past that she would want to change, she said she always postponed her wishes to spend on herself for clothes and travelling as life struggles and other’s needs took priority. Given a chance she would definitely pamper herself more and travel a lot. However, she says she has now learned to embrace the moment and enjoy it to the fullest. Through an institution where she works which is socially conscious, she wishes to continue contributing in her small ways to the society and country.. 


From just being my friend’s mother and Sir’s wife, I have developed immense admiration towards Aai over the past years. Her sincerity to work, her soft heart, caring words, love for eating and cooking for others; and most importantly her resilience is what I adore. 


Aai was diagnosed with Breast Cancer and is currently recovering with smiling eyes!


Nishkama Karma

Written by Kruthik P S , Creative Empowerment Batch 3 

  • Karmanye vadhikaraste 
  • Ma Phaleshu Kadachana,
  • Ma Karma Phala Hetur Bhur 
  • Ma Te Sango Stv Akarmani

 The translation of the above verse “You have every right to work but not expecting the fruits out of it. Let the focus be not on the fruits and never be inactive”, this verse perhaps summarizes the torchbearer of my family and a strong pillar my Amma. 

 Born during the INDO-Pak war era to a Govt. health officer K. S. Gopala Rao and Komala Bai as a 3rd child to the family in Kolar. Family moved from Kolar to Chikmagalur for the next few years followed by a permanent shift to Bangalore.

Schooling days:

  • -       Until 5th grade: Chikmagalur Kote School, Chikmagalur
  • -       5th and 6th grade: Madhuri Primary School, Bangalore
  • -       7th till degree 1st year: Bharatiya Samskruthi Vidyapeeta, Bangalore
  • -       Senior Kannada and English shorthand: Keshava Institute, Bangalore

 Best known about Amma is her professional career which started very early for her as early as when she was 19, still she remembers how Taata(her dad) used to stay at the corridor waiting for her to finish the work and pick her up after the work. Getting a Government job as early as 19 years with others in the family always showed how talented and hardworking she is. Soon things changed when Amma  got married when she was 23 and became a mother at 24.

As a 25 year old which I am currently, I cannot even imagine how she managed to balance the family with a child given the fact that it was majorly a patriarchal society which was existing. She always remembers how hard it was for her during those days, constantly being pressured by the family to be a homemaker yet she did not leave her job. This perhaps is the only reason why we are currently living a happy peaceful life not worried much monetarily.

They say for a sculptor to form its shape it takes a lot of beating and a similar instance happened with her as she had an miscarriage after my elder brother's birth. Between all these as a miracle literally miracle I was born, the toughest were those pregnancy days for her when she had to undergo a lot of pain mentally and underwent a lot of medical treatment. Her eyes often become wet when I ask her to share about those pregnancy days. She never believed that I would be born as a normal child with a lot of prayers and a lot of blessings. The baby was normal, she recalls.

Perhaps the next pebble in her shoe was when we built a house, a huge financial crunch started followed by Dad’s Jaundice. Even though I was witnessing these things, I wasn't even aware of these things as I was barely a 5-7 years old child yet there are some wild memories for me that reminds me of those days. I used to enjoy the pillion seat of my brother’s bicycle which was the only vehicle we had, both my dad and mother never knew how to drive. My brother's bicycle was more or less like family’s blessing. Apart from this there aren't any more raw memories for me. She remembers those days as the toughest phase financially as she almost became the lone beard winner for the family as my dad lost his job for a brief period during that tenure.


 

I know that Amma cooks extremely well and her dishes are perhaps the best. This talent of hers also helped her to gain some extra income that helped us to overcome the financial crunch. She started to sell pickles and instant powders which also became best selling items for a brief period at some condiments and small stores.

The best part about Amma is that she is very possessive about her family. She always does ensure that we as children get the best and she never compromises anything when it comes to her family. She always wants her children to be the best. Amma was always worried that I would not be good at studies and was always tense about that up until graduation. I still remember how she taught me Kannada which perhaps was the toughest for me. Academically also I wasn’t that bright a student as my brother was which made her worrisome. Looking back at my progress today she is definitely proud of how I progressed over the years 

Inching closer to her retirement I only wish her that she gets to travel a lot within India, Europe and many more… I also hope that she makes up for all the small thrills which she gave up on due to the work taking care of our exams etc… and more importantly AANE(aarogya nemmadi;health and peace).

Looking back at her journey embraces me the importance of women in a family more importantly women being independent. We all call it women empowerment these days but I would say it's the women’s will and commitment, she always has lived as an example of commitment, commitment to work, to family. For her life was her family and family was her life. Any small disturbance to family meant a disturbance to her life. She constantly reminds me about the great value system that she has left on me as a person, not doing anything for granted and giving the best at each small work which we do are some small examples. She is a true believer of “Nishkama Karma” which means do deeds without any fruits of reward.


Life Flow

Written by Kalyani  Abhyanakar, Creative Empowerment Batch 3

I interviewed my Dad Prakash Abhyanakar, on 28th January, where I had an extensive conversation with him about his childhood, youth and outlook toward life. My dad was born in Indore, a small town in Madhya Pradesh. He completed his high school in Indore and cherishes it as the best time of his life when he would cycle with his friends to school carefree, get pampered by his mother and have lovely time with the family. The family was often engaged in Satsangs and rituals which got all children to get together and have a nice time with extended relatives. He particularly remembers how all occasions would join to celebrate small victories, further strengthening the bond and remaining tight.  My father emphasizes on the importance of family as a unit. He feels that because of family support, he could climb the ladder. Early twenties, dad shifted to Delhi in search of work and completed his education. He flowed with life and looked for opportunities and kept grabbing them as they came. He just flowed like a river and that made it easy for him to adjust to a new city where survival was not that easy. My mother stood like a pillar for him as he used to travel across the city for work. My dad says that me and my brother added colours to their life and he worked with honesty and integrity to give us the best education and life possible. and his recent move to Pune after spending 30 years in Delhi was again a life-changing event for him. But he still took life as it is. 

 Dad often says it's important to plan life and pray to God unceasingly. Life has been tough on him in various instances but he chose to laugh and thank God for each and everything.  He suffered in silence only to let us laugh in the present. 



Rebel and Achieve

Written by Pancinovia Neelu M, Creative Empowerment Batch 3

Born in 1956 the second half of the 50s, he was the eldest of the four children. By the time 60s were getting over was turning 14 interestingly for whatever reason inexplicable was vaguely thrown into the third standard when he was 5 years old. Starting off as an underaged made him aware of unexpectedly competitive surroundings and made him a wide-eyed, naïve character. Constantly existing in a surrounding where one needs to keep their mind, eyes and ears tuned to be a part utopian world he was put into was his first unintended circumstance he lived which became his trigger to be constantly aware and be sharp of the surrounding.

The treatment by their peers, society and the potential surrounding did not seem up to the mark of egalitarianism, equality for all kinds of the notion he had. Instead of fighting for the problem he kept looking for an explanation that made him go away from listening to people and delving into bits and pieces of paper floating in the wind as part of the garbage where he lived.

Those printed pieces were the spark for the glimpses of what could be beyond the words from the people he had lived with and pushed him further deep into the world of books, magazines, and newspapers and found a home in the libraries. The potential unintended habit was what shaped his mind in a way that explained inequalities and sometimes what he believed to be injustice and kept bringing a resolve in him while growing up.

“I am not going to do anything that has been done to me. And I am going to practice things which I have learnt so it smoothens and eases the minds of many other people who may be in my kind of situation.”

 Looking back to these abstract things made him feel like he was nothing but just a rebel, a non-conformist. Standing by his word and going his way whoever it may be, he lived by stating “I will chart my own course based on my discovery from the writings of whether it is Bankhim Chandra Chaterjee or Balakumaran or Jayakanthan” from the tamil literature.

Proceeding with a craving to learn a little bit of English because he believed it has more to offer and it was also breaking the linguistic barrier that prevailed around him. Luckily he got an opportunity to move out of Tamilnadu into Jawaharlal Nehru university.

Talking about inspiration as a conscious note, it hit him when he was pursuing his BSc Zoology second year while on a trip to collect specimens from the calm waters of Rameswaram which was blocked by the coral reaf. Accompanied by many North Indian peers, he realized how much of a culture barrier was distancing himself from his fellow classmates. The realisation is what created a spell or an impelling wish to live upto a life that one looks up to, to move out of the cocoon that he felt he hid under.

He terms the land of promise as the one that brought him life. The desire to learn English, move out of the state and live a life which is beyond basic was a trigger point for him on his way back from Rameswaram looking at his peers. But due to socio-economic reasons the struggle to find a way to his desires was persistent which made him to drive trucks and run a small condiment shop until he ran into an advertisement by Jawaharlal Nehru University where the university claims to pay for all the tuition expenses of the student.

Walking into the University is when he discovered what kind of a world exists, what levels are there and how there are islands where the egalitarianism, equality, you are to be interacted with based on what you are not what your family is or parents are or society. This was the big turning point in the life of Mr. Vijay which he terms as an inspiration where he plunged into it and took it head on. It also compelled him to learn the language of the world which is English which opened the floodgates of global literature be it relating to the future of societies, or award-winning ideas in science and then the whole existence shifted into the head cerebral.

He started chasing all the ideas and thoughts that have shaped humanity, learning about the story of philosophy, of science, of sociology and like many other people decided to test out the civil services IAS and then decided not to proceed with the field as it was a feeling of power game administration. Moving away from all these career options and he moved into banking where again the situation in banks of the way the bankers treated the customers who are the real bosses was pretty bad and living with the entitlement of selfishness and greed annoyed and brought out the rebel in him and made him think that one day he will change the way banking happens.

He said “when we wish for something intently, I think it comes our way”. By 1993, the banking economy went through a change, structural reforms took place and the banking sector was key and they were bringing about a change in which he was aligned to be a part of setting up the new bank called the ICICI back and then further it paved way for him to be a part of setting up the IndusInd bank.

 All these exposures made him think that why cannot create a new entity at the economic system of the country level International Financial Services Centre which led to why only new things in finance why don’t we do for the economy as a whole which later led to Free trade Warehousing Zone and an export-oriented area called Special Economic Zone. Without too much of a conscious thought going with the flow, it kept taking him to newer and wider and more complex areas which not many fortunately were paying attention to which made them a band of people who were keen on bringing in a change and trying to be the change upto an extent they can which he claimed was an infectious excitement.

He believed that you don’t need the whole country to move with you to bring about the change a bunch of four of five people is good enough to seed those things. Once the seed grows and picks up attention and momentum came in, that is how the special economic zones and private sector ports and public-private partnerships to build airports and seaports and integrated townships and investment regions all such achievements begun. When one gets deep into all such things one can learn every facet, and dimension. It could be legal or planning the land or designing a building or financing the projects it could be managing the people, convincing the government, and finding the customer all that one can't escape. It amplified the opportunities which forced him to dive into and gain opportunities to pick up the pearls from the deep ocean. All such successions gave the minimum recognition across the government and private sectors and policymakers in companies national and international.

A person who sees the need for constant improvement what he sees as sub-optimal, he found construction being done by turning human beings into cattle using muscle power. The whole process of the construction sector disheartened him. He saw an opportunity where it is streamlining, mechanizing, which adds value to people who need built environment and the people who are into building the built environment. Again it was not explicit it was intuitively known and implicit which force impels you. If it was very clearly understood it would not have so much of energy.

Being a new area he went into economic strife and found his way out of it. A person who believes in reaching nowhere but enjoys the pursuit and not in getting it. 

My Wonder Woman

Written by Jessia Saji, Creative Empowerment Batch 3

 I grew up watching how effortlessly she managed everything. I must say, I was a clingy daughter who would need her mother to be around all the time. Even in our old pictures, it feels like I was glued to her. I felt protected being around her like any daughter and it was mainly because I knew no demon would come near me as she will fight them all fearlessly. I always wondered how does she have such aura and power. Then I learnt that she has always been like this since childhood. She used to do all the outdoor chores with Appachan and her brothers. She would wear a lungi and go around with them to feed the cows and would join them for rubber tapping. I always get goosebumps when I think of it. My dad sometimes says that she was a real Elsamma from the movie “Elsamma enna Ankutty” (A character from a Malayalam movie, which translates to “A boy named Elsamma”).

I physically resemble her a lot. I often get comments that I am the photocopy of her. Earlier, I used to refuse and say ‘No I don’t.’ If you ask me why I denied it, I don’t have a clear answer, maybe because I thought it made me less unique. But now, if anyone comes up to me and comment “Hey, you resemble your mother,” I take it whole heartedly and own it because it’s a privilege. She is an assertive woman yet so soft and warm. She lets me believe that a person can be both sensitive and strong. She taught me being gentle does not make you any less of a person.

I have seen her other sides too. Yes, she is quirky and funny and I can proudly say that I have definitely got that side of her. She has a lot of layers. I have seen it all (or may be almost all). She taught me that not everything comes easy and sometimes we need to fight alone to get what we deserve. I remember in our family get-together, whenever an aunty shares a difficult situation, they had to face, someone commenting “If it was Omana Aunty, she would have…...” and I would just sit there and wonder whether I could be half as bold as her. Now, as years go by, I am realizing I’m growing into her. Yes, she is a wonder woman and I call her “Mumma.”

Monday, January 16, 2023

The Ex-Seminarian

Written by Mariya K Joseph, Creative Empowerment Batch 3

“Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans”

 Yes, Life is what makes you happy when you make other plans which are not even planned. I have grown seeing the life of an Ex- Seminarian, saw the growth of a teenager, struggles, ups and downs, breakdowns and finally I saw him building a happy family.

 I always wonder why he chose a career which was not even selective at that time? It was quite different from all his siblings. Who made him choose that, who guided him to take such a risk in his life? Why did he come out of the seminary? Did he love someone? Was he in a relationship?

All the answers were there in his smile. He is something extraordinary, I mean more than what is ordinary for us.

My childhood was colorful because of him. We had a cousin gang of 6 members called “Thommanum Makkalum”. For us he was the Santa who comes once in every three months from the city of dreams “Bengaluru”, why Santa? because he comes with a big suitcase made up of some kind of metal, which has lots of rust just like our trust on him. It was full of his clothes, but he always kept a small packet of “Soan Papdi”, which was the sweetest sweet I have ever had. I have heard several times he was being scolded by Appachan (Grandfather) and Ammachi for being so careless about his life, for coming out of seminary. As I told he was unique, he never answered anyone’s question, instead he proved himself right, he proved his decisions were right.

 One day, everything changed. Our house was repainted, furniture was polished, his small room replaced with a cupboard, a good fluffy mattress, a cool fancy fan, and we lost the possession of his room. My Amma told me that our family is growing and someone new is coming into our life. Soon after few weeks we got new clothes, so many people came to our house, our courtyard became ready to host a wedding reception, then I realized he is getting married, the first and last marriage of that generation which I am going to witness, I was excited, excited to wear the new dress which he got for me. I saw a young short lady coming out of an old white ambassador car which was beautifully decorated with red and white flowers. She was wearing a white shining saree and had a flower bouquet in her hand. The Ex- seminarian, whom I saw in Alb (white long sacred dress priests wear), changed his outfit to a kurta with long sleeves, well groomed. The Ex- seminarian got married. That young lady whom we saw in the white shining saree changed it to a green saree which my Amma was carrying with her in a small basket came to our home. She was accompanied by some strangers, some photographers, later that evening everyone left, but she stayed back in his room. Then our grandmother told us that she is our “Kochamma” from now onwards. “Kochamma” was the new addition to our small family. He started his career, he developed his dreams, the dream which all his family members criticized.



 Now after 16 years, I am talking to that old seminarian, a partially successful businessman, who chose to be a family man, a husband, a father, a good “Appappi'' (Uncle), nothing has changed, maybe the old rusted suitcase replaced with a new bag, but the sweetest sweet never changed. The frequency of Santa’s visit reduced and became once in a year, that was a bit painful. We knew “Thommanum Makkalum” will be a happily ever after, feel good gang which is running successfully even now, because of the Ex-Seminarian’s blessings. As I said, he is Extraordinary, I mean something more than ordinary for us. 

Sunday, June 19, 2022

NIKKI BOBO

Written by URVASHI DHASMANA

Whenever I think about a well-lived life, I immediately think of my grandmother who passed away in October 2020. When the whole world was buried under covid pandemic, there she was peacefully living under the stars in the beautiful valley on the foothills of the Himalayas, Dehradun.

She was one of her kind, so ahead of her time and era, yet wrapped in the cloak of traditions and culture. 


Born in early 1920s, she has witnessed the hardships of British slavery, the call for independence, young independent India and what not. She used to tell me stories all the time but the best ones were the ones where I learnt how my sweet, calm and composed granny unraveled the change from a 15 year girl to a married one in 16, how she handled 6 kids on her own? How was married life when she first saw my grandpa’s face the next day after the wedding? I can’t even imagine that one. 


My grandfather was in the government sector, so she walked by him from place to place keeping that little smile on her face and when he passed away after a few decades, she single-handedly settled her children, got them married and then helped raise her grandkids, but never did she compromise on anything. She roams around the whole country, be it Vaishno Devi in J&K or Rameswaram in Tamil Nadu.

She took her first flight back in 2012 to Nagaland to meet my cousin. She was full of life.


When my mother wanted me to wear a suit for a family function, she was the one who got me a western dress and told me that I’m not that old to wear a suit yet. I still miss our scooty rides to the “chaat wali gali’ for our munching time.  When the whole world was fighting over INDIA-PAKISTAN or HINDU-MUSLIM, she went out of her way to get her brother-in-law married to the love of her life, a south-indian christian.


There are many events that make me relive all the moments I shared with her, and as each day passes by I feel blessed that I am her granddaughter and she will always be my NIKKI BOBO.

Monday, May 2, 2022

BEYOND THE MILITARY BORDER

Written by Ashly Thankachan

“Old age and treachery will always beat youth and exuberance”. The Sixties lead us to a different perspective of life. The interactive session started with an answer to one question “sir do you have anything to say to the younger generation? The reply made us laugh “I am the young Generation”.

A doctor, a professor, 24 years of service in the Armed Forces in Regimental, Research, Staff, Instructional and Command appointments in the Army Medical Corps; Col (Dr) VMP Thomas firmly believes that “good childhood exposure and family background helps a child to become a good citizen. The parents have a great role in their offspring’s character molding and behavioural development. Mr VT Mathew and Mrs Annamma Mathew were part of a liberal family that helped their three children not only to be successful in their careers but to be good human beings.





“Education is the most powerful weapon you can use to change the world”. He was a bright student and active in his academics and extracurricular activities. Basketball, Volleyball, football etc, helped him to get more focus and active in his school and college years. He learned ‘never to give up from his father and ‘have a sense of integrity, perseverance, and sincerity from his mother.

1971 Indo – Pakistani war inspired him to be a part of the big organization “INDIAN ARMED FORCES”. His career started at the Armed Forces Medical College, Pune, which transformed him from a “young boy to a young man”. From 1981 Jalandhar (Punjab), his internship and first posting, to posting across the country in both peace and field formations and the fortune to have worked under the active supervision of Dr APJ Abdul Kalam in DRDO helped him to be a strong and disciplined citizen. He said about this situation as “Challenges make us strong”.

Being an independent, strong man is a big challenging task in everyone’s life. People are afraid of death in old age. When he got to know that the friend who was in the college passed away, he felt that “everybody dies but I believed in immortality”. It’s quite impressive to understand the reality. As he faced difficult health conditions twice in his life, he realized that 'positivity' is very important in our life. He said that one has to think positively even in near-death situations. It surprised me no end as to how a person can think positively during the most difficult situations. On being asked his opinion about suicide which is one of the leading causes of death among young adults he said that “We have only one life, I can’t think how people commit suicide. Life is precious”. The best qualities he maintains in his life are calmness, analyzing situations, and facing situations with optimism.

“In the journey of life, he values the companionship and understanding of his spouse Dr Becky M Thomas. He believes that a happy and supportive family life will help us to be strong and to endure. The motto that he abides by in life is “BE HAPPY, AND BE POSITIVE”

The session has inspired me a lot and it ends up with a funny question “do you treat yourself, doctor”. The reply made a beautiful smile on his face. “If you treat yourself, you have a fool as a patient and knave as a doctor”. I always learned so many things from him like calmness, professionalism, work ethics, etc. I wish him good health and fortunes in his entire life and people will get inspiration from his presence.


Monday, April 18, 2022

The backbone of my life

Written by Alwin Joseph, Creative Empowerment Batch 2 , 2022

This story is about my father, my role model - born in 1964 to a farmer’s family in Kannur, who had migrated from southern Kerala to find suitable land for cultivation and better livelihood.  He is the 3rd son of the family, which focuses on agriculture and small business. Their family consists of his grandfather, grandmother, parents and siblings. Along with the family members, he also began his childhood helping his father in farming and business. Staying as a helping hand for his parents in agriculture and business, he has completed his primary education and took up a technical course in electronics. After completing the course, he started helping his father in agriculture and business. Later, he moved abroad in search of job opportunities after his marriage.

But unfortunately, things did not go as he planned; he had to drop his abroad plans and come back to India. Coming back to India, he started to help his parents and try for other jobs, but finally, he landed entirely in agriculture. The nuclear family concept came into his father’s mind, and he and his brothers all are sent to different places to start a new life.

This was a tough time, as he had to start everything from the start; he was sent to an area that was yet to be developed; the road, medical or travel facilities of that time were not designed as we see now for each need he has to travel kilometres primarily by walk and jeep services. The only person to support him was my mother; together, they started a new life for me as a small child. Starting with a small field of rubber, he expanded agriculture into mixed farming. We have most of the crops to meet his needs and earn a living along with cattle. He has spent his days and nights building up the family and setting up the field for agriculture.

He has a vast story of life to tell me about how he has travelled, his places, and his troubles. He always had big plans for me but never forced me into anything. Being very supportive, he never said the word “NO” to me. Always he tried to find a way to meet my needs. For this reason and to give me the better of all available, he put me into a good school nearby for better education and later in the best colleges. He always motivates me to take up this to help me be a better person. He always has one intention that he always tells me to keep in mind that he never expected me to be in any situation where he suffered, like how he has travelled.

A lot more to tell… a lot more to write… But I want to end this small write up about my backbone with his motivating words… “God sees everything, and he has plans, don’t do anything that is not good and never do anything that will drive God away from me. Be helpful and supportive of all the people who are in need. Never harm anyone” ...!

Prof. Dr. T Devi

Written by Preethi.N

 I count myself lucky that I was mentored by Prof.  Dr. T. Devi , Professor and Head Department of Computer Applications, Bharathiar University, Coimbatore    She is an amazing lady who has inspired me to be a lifelong learner and a fighter. She is an accomplished figure in her chosen field; a taskmaster who would keep me on my toes and pushes me to outdo myself in every task I undertake. She thought us to think outside and box and to be proactive and eager when it comes to learning. To this day I follow the same principles and it has stood me in good stead. She was not just a guide but also someone who would listen to our worries, go out of our way to help us, and constantly coach us even after we graduated. Passion, determination, and humility are the qualities that I most admire about her.

Blessed to be your student forever mam! Thank you for all your support.

"Be Happy"

Written by Samiksha Shukla, Creative Empowerment Batch 2, 2022

Born in Indore, Madhya Pradesh on 23, July'1960, Sudha Shukla, is my first and the best Teacher. A homemaker in the true sense. The caring mother, loving daughter, and responsible daughter-in-law. She completed her education in Ahilya Ashram. She used to be an intelligent child among 5 siblings. Her, Father Late J P Dixit use to take her advice in all major decisions in their home. She married Mr. Ajay Shukla, in 1981. Blessed with three daughters, whom she groomed and guided to be responsible and caring people.

Seeing her taking all the responsibilities following all the moral principles, all of us have grown up into ethically responsible individuals.

A responsible mother who use to be very concerned about her children's education. For that, she was ready to sacrifice many other things like traveling, and functions. I never found a cook better than her in my life. I remember my grandfather used to tell me to learn to cook from her. I have seen my cousins, and uncles enjoying food made by her. That is a perfect match for my father as he is very particular about the food. and he was severed delicious food varieties every day…😋

I have not seen her serving the same food two times a day, Every meal used to be freshly cooked and served with love.

Getting up in the morning and making us ready for school was a major part of her life. A hardcore theist, use to have deep faith in God. After sending us she used to do pooja, very detailed in the Hindu spiritual books.

I have seen a curious reader in her, she reads newspapers in detail. She is always updated about current affairs across the world.

I heard she used to like movies and at a young age, she used to watch the first day the first show. A very good singer, found singing all along with the work she does. She used to be loving not only among her family members but the house helps (maids) who use to come home were very happy and respectful to her.

 Even today when we are at home it is the same, I might compromise in cooking but she never. She is still the same young and beautiful Mom who is so strong and confident. I learned from her to face challenges happily without any fear. What I am today is mainly because of her, as she stood by me to help in every situation of my life and my two sisters.

"Be happy and everything will come in place at Right Time"

She believes, that in life we should be happy with whatever we have, things will come in place at the right time. God is observing us, he is always with us to help in all the ways we take. Sometimes it may take longer to get what you want but you will get it if you have the true desire and capability to handle it.

I am blessed to have her as my Mother.

 

Maama

 Written by Praveenkumar Vaidya 

Creative Empowerment Batch 2 , 2022




Mama…As I remember…

It is imperative that we are all influenced by our parents and teachers in our life. But when I started searching who else influenced me in my life, many familiar faces reeled in my mind. Then, I was struck by one face which I thought was influenced is, my Mama, my mother’s younger brother. As we know, he was the only one of my relatives who stayed in a faraway city, Bangalore, which was a dream city for many of us. Still, we did not travel to Bangalore quite frequently, but Mama used to visit our place whenever he had his official work at our side. 

 

I really don’t remember what actually made me think about him fondly, but maybe he was visiting us from Bangalore. As years passed by, when I was in class 10, that time I had a chance to interact with him on many subjects (as he was well versed with political history, Indian history, labour issues etc.) Other than these discussions, he had a small camera with him, this made us look at him curiously. As it was his prized possession, he used to give us to hold it and peep through the viewer.  He used to explain to us how cameras work and also introduced us to negatives, negative developing and dark rooms. He used to take us to a dark room where he used to develop all the negatives. Not only that, he was good at repairing wall radio sets, tape recorders and later television sets. He also used to explain to us lucidly how Television works. He used to subscribe to the professional journal “Electronics For You” during the 80s and learnt many things on his own and made small projects. We were awestruck looking at him experimenting with electronic gadgets. This used to be quite exciting for us at the age of sixteen. 

 

He had one more passion of reading Kannada novels as I found this in my mother and her elder brother also. He was an avid reader and used to finish them within no time. I used to ask him about the books, the authors and the story plot. He used to recommend reading the novels of all authors that he read. During my visit to Bangalore, there was a small circulating library near his home where I had an opportunity to visit that library and lay my hands on all sorts of books and since then I have retained my reading habit which actually expanded my vision for any issues that I came across. 

 

When we all grew up older, we had a chance to understand him in more detail. He seems to be one among many who evoked an interest in me about stock markets long back. I remember him telling me how he purchased a few company shares and earned profit by selling them in the stock exchange. I remember taking threads from those early discussions and getting to know more about primary and secondary markets by self-studying. But when I had an opportunity working with Chartered Accountants in a college in Mumbai, it was natural for me to get involved with the stock market.  Amazingly, after his retirement, he again took up online trading and did extremely well in understanding new technology also earned some good profits. 

 

Mama was an avid cigarette smoker but when he was advised by a physician, surprisingly he abandoned smoking. Such was his determination. I questioned him how he could give up smoking so drastically and I was amazed by his reply and came to know how resolute he was in doing what he intends to do. 

 

After his retirement, one more passion that he followed was terrace gardening. I think he did it exceedingly well. I don’t know how he got hooked to terrace gardening. As he told me, he used to attend workshops organised by the agriculture department and he made a group with likeminded people and he could grow all types of vegetables and fruits on the terrace. He got an agriculture kit from Australia by Anil, his son. I think he became an expert on terrace gardening and copiously shared his success stories on Facebook. As I heard he had developed a great bond with all the similar interest groups and he used to travel around Bangalore to study and observe how terrace gardening is cultivated by all his group members. Thus was his level of passion for anything that he does.  

 

I can go on and on telling how he influenced me in my life. Two years back we lost him. Everyone has to leave this world, if he is remembered fondly for his work and leaving others influenced by his work, it’s life well lived. Isn't it? Thank you Mama.